How to Accept (Anything & Everything)
“To love life, to love it even
when you have no stomach for it
and everything you’ve held dear
crumbles like burnt paper in your hands,
your throat filled with the silt of it.
When grief sits with you, its tropical heat
thickening the air, heavy as water
more fit for gills than lungs;
when grief weights you like your own flesh
only more of it, an obesity of grief,
you think, How can a body withstand this?
Then you hold life like a face
between your palms, a plain face,
no charming smile, no violet eyes,
and you say, yes, I will take you
I will love you, again.”
― Ellen Bass
Sometimes you gotta accept things the way they are, just because you can’t really do anything else about it, just because that’s the best way to stay peaceful, and just because that’s the only way you can move forward.
But how do we actually accept things or people or situations in life? Keep on scrolling to know!
Law Of Attraction
For those who don’t know anything about the Law of attraction, to put it simply, it is consciously attracting everything you want in life. If you have heard about this, you have probably heard about this a lot and you might and might not believe in it and that’s completely your choice.
But here, more than attracting things in your life, I want to talk about ‘Faith.’ Don’t worry, I am not gonna force you to believe in the law of attraction, but keeping faith that things will be better soon is a must! I mean, what have you even got to lose?
So once you got faith on your side, you believe that this situation I am in is temporary and that in turn makes accepting things much easier.
Don’t Compare
Comparing yourself to others is something I am against in any given circumstance. I know it is human to feel insecure and jealous, but then you have to get over it. It’s healthy to know what others are up to in their lives and be in touch with reality, but if you are constantly looking upon what others have and you don’t, that’s where the problem starts.
I have always told you this and will tell you again if you want to compare yourself to someone, that eligible person is only YOU. When you stop comparing yourself to others, you also acknowledge that they are doing their thing and I am at my own pace, and my dear, if that’s not acceptance then tell me what is?
Growth Mindset
When we have a fixed mindset we often come to a conclusion that now nothing can be done. On the other hand, when we keep a growth mindset, we look at our failures as opportunities to learn and grow.
Many think that a fixed mindset is best for accepting things as they are in our life. But you tell me, would it be easier for you to accept things when you know you cannot do anything about it or when you know you can still grow and survive?
Reacting? Okay. Overreacting? Nada
Reacting to a situation is obvious. But flowing into our emotions and creating scenarios in our own heads is definitely not an option. It’s very important that you stay in touch with reality and see things for what they really are.
If you are going to keep on overreacting at every lemon that life throws at you, then all of them will just squash your face because you were too busy overreacting at every lemon thrown that you couldn’t handle them. (Just saying, don’t come at me for this lame example.)
Knowing That *Acceptance = Peace = Ability to Move Forward*
Sometimes why people can’t move ahead is because they are not able to accept a situation in the first place. This is what we call, being in “Denial.”
But when you accept a situation, “Okay, it is what it is”, only then can you move forward to, “So now what?”
Final Words
Acceptance is the first step towards dealing with any situation. I know it is hard, but it is also a necessary step to find a solution. If you are not ready to accept, the immediate next and the last option is to give up.
But giving up is not even an option for whoever is reading this, I know you are much stronger than this. Going to act like your mommies and lastly say: “There’s always a way out!”
